Shie Benisti, certified sex therapist and LCSW

Hi, I’m Shie.

I’m a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, AASECT Certified Sex Therapist, and PhD in Clinical Sexology specializing in desire, intimacy, relationships, anxiety, and trauma. My work centers around helping individuals and couples understand themselves more deeply, build healthier emotional and sexual connections, and feel more grounded and confident in their relationships and daily lives.

My doctoral work deepened my focus on sexual desire and desire differences in relationships and led to the development of Desire Dialogues, a psychoeducational workbook designed to help partners better understand and navigate differences in desire with greater compassion, curiosity, and connection.

Over the years, I’ve worked with people who feel disconnected, overwhelmed, or unsure how to navigate intimacy, desire, or emotional closeness. Many arrive feeling confused about their sexual experiences, anxious in their relationships, or weighed down by stress, shame, or past trauma. My role is to create a warm, nonjudgmental space where you can slow down and explore what’s really happening beneath the surface.

My therapeutic style is warm, empathic, and direct. I bring compassion, curiosity, and honesty to my sessions, along with evidence-based approaches that support meaningful, lasting change. I integrate emotional attunement, sex-positive education, relational insight, and EMDR-informed trauma work to help you reconnect with your body, your emotions, and your relationships.

I believe healing happens when we feel seen, safe, and supported. Therapy isn’t about perfection or “fixing” you—it’s about understanding your patterns, honoring your experiences, and developing the clarity and connection you’ve been looking for.

Whether you’re navigating anxiety, differences in sexual desire, sexual pain, performance anxiety, relationship concerns, or the lasting effects of trauma, you don’t have to navigate it alone. I’m here to help you move toward a life and relationships that feel more aligned, connected, and alive.

My Training & Experience

PhD in Clinical Sexology

  • Licensed Clinical Social Worker (LCSW) — North Carolina

  • AASECT Certified Sex Therapist (CST)

  • EMDR Trained

  • Advanced training in sexuality, intimacy, sexual desire, and relationship dynamics

  • Former Clinical Director with extensive experience supporting individuals and couples

  • Doctoral research focused on sexual desire differences in relationships and the development of Desire Dialogues, a psychoeducational workbook for couples navigating differences in desire

I remain committed to ongoing learning, growth, and advanced training in sexuality, intimacy, and relationships—because you deserve care rooted in both expertise and humanity.

Shie Benisti, sex therapist, mental health therapist. A young woman in a black jacket and hiking boots standing in a field of shrubs with mountains and a partly cloudy sky in the background at sunset.

Outside the therapy room, I’m someone who values warmth, connection, and intentional living. I’m grounded by time outdoors, hiking, and finding quiet moments in nature. I’m also an animal lover and find so much comfort and joy in being around my pets. Time with my family, creating cozy spaces, and connecting with nature helps me stay balanced—the same grounded energy I bring into my work with clients.

🌿 A Little About Me

I am LGBTQIA+ affirming, kink-aware, and committed to creating an inclusive, shame-free therapeutic space. I honor all identities, orientations, and relationship structures, and you will be met with warmth, respect, and nonjudgmental support.

If it feels right, I’d love to work with you.